risk managers are the only people who will not be able to tell you what 'risk' is if you ask them.... your problem is that you had high expectations. don't have any expectations about risk managers. however, this does not mean that they are stupid. having high expectations about senior risk managers is even more silly. they are the ones who are stupid enough to have slaved their life away thinking they have built tools to control risk.
risk is not mathematics. mathematics is not risk. you use mathematics to model risk, but those models are crap. VaR itself is crap. you don't need to know mathematics to understand risk... you need to use your brain.
you know, the purpose behind statistics is not to be a genius at standard deviation, time series modelling, parametric VaR, etc... it is to build techniques that can simplify reality, which is complex. this is not wish wash or fluff talk. go read some articles about Fisher, Student, Neyman, Pearson, etc... and you'll get a good feeling for what statistics is. maybe that will help. it seems like you are the one who doesn't know anything about statistics.